Choose Your Life


By Miles Clyne

I recently read the following quote.

“Ten years from now, make sure you can say that you chose your life, you didn’t settle for it.”

Makes absolute sense. But how many times have you heard people say something like; I want my life back, if I could do this over again, or, I never get to do the things I really want to do? Clearly these folks aren’t likely living the lives they’d hoped for. How about you?

Making the conscious decision to choose your life isn’t easy. The bigger the changes you have to make, likely the bigger the challenges. Losing 10 lbs. should be easier than losing 100 lbs.  Saving $1000 dollars should be easier than saving $10,000.

Big changes require big commitments, discipline and being honest with yourself. 

Being honest may sound easy, but it may be hardest part of the equation. If you need to lose weight and you have no idea where to start, you have to admit it and ask for help.  Same as figuring out how to save money and just about everything else in life.  

We have all heard that in order for many alcoholics to make life changing decisions, they have to hit rock bottom.  Hopefully this doesn’t mean if we haven’t figure out how to eat properly, we have to be on the verge of a cardiac arrest before we take a serious look at our options. Or we are already in retirement when we figured out we should have started saving 30 years ago. 

Being honest with ourselves means we have to share with the people we love and care about that we don’t necessarily have everything figured out. And being honest with them doesn’t guarantee we will get the support we want, which is likely why we may be afraid to talk to them in the first place.

Tell your spouse and children that you want to change up the families eating habits they know and love, because you are concerned not only for your health, but theirs also.  See what happens. Tell your spouse that as a family you need to figure out how to start saving more. Or worse, you are spending more than what is coming in.

I’m guessing before everyone gets really excited and thanks you profusely, there will be at very least some questions, suspicions, and various levels of irritation and possibly anger.  The old saying united we stand, divided we fall comes to mind. If you are single, it’s all on you baby. If you have a partner, it could be all the harder if you don’t get support.

Choosing your life, depending on where you are on your life’s road can be easier or harder.

In the case of a family, the challenges can multiply. If you love your family, you will find a way to get them on board. If you can’t, two words come to mind; prove it. Lead by example. What greater gift could we give ourselves and the people we love than by showing them how to live the life they’d choose? And like anything else, the sooner we figure out the good things in life, the better.